What I Need

Okay, I need some ground rules for dating.

First, I need consistent daily communication. It doesn't need to be constant. At least daily. I like a couple of daytime texts and nightly calls. Working up to this.

Second, I need at least one date a week to start.

Third, I only move off the app if we are exclusive. Then we both move off together.

Fourth, overnights only happen if we are exclusive and working towards a relationship.

I don't match energy. I'm my true self, and I expect the same from you. If we're not compatible, it will show. It's not about overextending myself; it's showing up as my authentic self because that's what love and a relationship is (at least my ideal one), and that's what I want.

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