My attachment style

I am an anxious/preoccupied attachment style. 

It's good to have this awareness.

I have high emotional dependency, need for constant reassurance, hypersensitivity, clinginess, and people-pleasing.

I imagine the worst-case scenario when he doesn't call or text right away. 

I want to spend all of my time with my partner.

It leads to rumination. 

Ways that I can help myself:

-Journaling

-Check my assumption

-Pausing before reacting

-Sit with the discomfort and activation. Don't outsource my emotions. 

-Is this actual danger and unsafe? Or is this unfamiliar and uncomfortable?

-"What do I need to do right now that doesn't require him to change?" Take accountability for my feelings.

-Don't interpret autonomy as rejection.

-You want connection without feeling like you'll die without it.

-Craving connection is human. It doesn't require urgency.

-Growth doesn't feel like fireworks. It feels like quieter reactions.

-When panic shows up, slow down the panic and speed up the curiosity.